Even if you don't have as many professional associations as I did, it can still be something to consider to change your name for work and other business commitments. If you've been published anywhere, you might also be wondering how hard it'll be to switch things over. That's why the choice is such an individual one. Even if you're not that traditional and I'm really not that traditional , the fact is there are still a lot of highly traditional people in the world today.
And you are going to meet those people — at the bank, at the mall, at hotels, at restaurants. And having a different last name than your partner will irritate those people, and they will, in turn, irritate you.
You should do what makes you happy. But from experience, I actually kind of like it that having my husband's last name makes things easier for us wherever we go. This comes, of course, because I already wanted to change my name, despite anything else, but it's been a nice fringe benefit to be at the bank or something and having someone ask, "OK, what's your last name?
It might be a weird reason, but it's true that having the same last name as a married couple especially if you want kids later will make things a bit easier. And people are probably going to refer to you as "Mrs.
So-and-So" anyway, so be aware of that when deciding to switch your name or not. Legit, the paperwork to change your name is awful. It takes forever, it involves a trip to the social security office AND the DMV, and you'll probably be on the phone with your phone company and credit card company for days. If you're someone who hates paperwork and stupid, administrative garbage, this is something to consider before you decide to change your name.
It really is a lot of paperwork. My husband and I got married in September Wedding planning was stressful, but we were on the same page about pretty much everything: Band instead of a DJ. Photo booth was a must. Short, but sweet ceremony. It was smooth sailing Or so I thought. A few months before our wedding, he brought up the topic of changing my last name.
I was honest: It wasn't something I wanted to do. I tried to explain my reasoning without raising the tone of my voice: "I'm 30! While there is no law in the United States requiring a name change after marriage, the tradition is still very much alive and well, thanks in part to its historical underpinnings in English and subsequently American common law.
But as the population grew, it got tiresome trying to distinguish among the many Thomases or Annes or Richards or Marys , so surnames arose, often based on lineage such Williamson , occupation such as Smith , or locale such as York.
But coverture laws also prevented women from entering into contracts, engaging in litigation, participating in business, or exercising ownership over real estate or personal property. Under these acts, women gained individual legal status for purposes of signing contracts, engaging in business and commerce, and making purchases to acquire property.
From there, the law continued to catch up…slowly. Supreme Court struck down a Tennessee law requiring a woman to assume the last name of her husband before registering to vote. Today, an estimated 20 percent of American women opt to retain their birth name after marriage — actually a lower percentage than in the s and s. Back then, many women saw keeping their birth name as an equality issue — a repudiation of any vestiges of coverture.
No doubt, the suffrage movement of the late 19th and early 20th century helped contribute to its demise. It's a big decision to change your last name, even on occasion as momentous as your marriage. Here are answers to some of the most commonly asked questions about the practice. For some, taking their husband's last name simply serves to solidify the commitment.
It's a gesture that leaves no room for doubt—changing their surname after marriage shows they're all in. For others, taking their husbands' surname is more about the status of the family unit—when there is a family unit to speak of. Having a different last name than your spouse is unlikely to confuse your children. While a shared last name may sidestep intrusive questions, research shows that having parents with different surnames rarely meddles with a child's identity.
And save for Spain and Iceland, Western Europe seems to follow the same pattern. On the other hand, in , Greece passed a Family Law Reform that required women to retain their surname after marriage and even pass it on to their children. Additionally, the decision has been known to elicit intrusive questions and comments from friends, family, and strangers alike.
When the United States Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage throughout the country in , part of the ruling allowed for same-sex partners to change their names just as opposite-sex couples do. The cost of changing your name after marriage varies from person to person. For example, if your passport was issued within a year of your marriage, the replacement with your name change is free.
For a passport older than one year, however, there is a charge for a new issue.
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